...and yet such force in that stance, / upright, heart thrust out / to the world, unguarded, no hope // without the possibility of a wound. / "To hold oneself in this pose," he said, / "takes incredible strength."
- Mark Doty
Do Not Let HR do this to you. It is not illegal to talk about wages in the work place. I did and got a 12% raise!
True info. Now let me add something: The power of documentation. (I was a long time steward in a nurses union.)
Remember: The “‘E” in email stands for evidence.
That cuts both ways. Be careful what you put into an email. It never really goes away and can be used against you.
But can also be a powerful tool for workplace fairness.
Case 1: Your supervisor asks you to do something you know is either illegal or against company policy. A verbal request. If things go wrong, you can count on them denying that they ever told you to do that. You go back to your desk, or wherever and you send them an email: “I just want to make sure that I understood correctly that you want me to do xxxxx” Quite often, once they see it in writing, they will change their mind about having you do it. If not, you have documentation.
Case 2: You have a schedule you like, you’ve had that schedule for a while, it works for you. Your supervisor comes to you and says “We’re really short-handed now and I need you to change your schedule just for a month until we can get someone else hired. It’s just temporary and you can have your old schedule back after a month.” A month goes by and they forget entirely that they made that promise to you. So, once again, when they make the initial request, you send them an email “I’m happy to help out temporarily, but just want to make sure I understand correctly that I will get my old schedule back after a month as you promised.” Documentation.
[Image ID: Text reading: In the middle of a busy clinic at our practice, I got pulled in by my manager to speak to HR, who must have made a special trip because she lives several states away, and told I was being 'investigated’ for discussing wages with my other employees. She told me it was against company policy to discuss wages.
Me; That’s illegal.
Them: (start italics) three slow, long seconds of staring at me blankly (end italics) Uh…
Me: That’s an illegal policy to have. The right to discuss wages is a right protected by the National Labor Relations board. I used to be in a union. I know this.
HR: Oh, this is news to me! I have been working HR for 18 years and I never knew that. Haha. Well try not do do it anyway, it makes people upset, haha.
Me: people are entitled to their opinions about what their work is worth. Bye.
I then left, and sent her several texts and emails saying I would like a copy of their company policy to see where this wage discussion policy was kept. She quickly called me back in to her office.
HR: You know what, there is no policy like that in the handbook! I double check. Sorry about the confusion, my apologies.
Me: You still haven’t given me the paper saying that we had this discussion. I am going to need some protection against retaliation.
HR: Oh haha yes here you go.
I just received a paper with legal letterhead and an apology saying there was no verbal warning or write up. Don’t even take their shit you guys. Keep talking about wages. Know your worth. /End ID]
At one of my old (shit) jobs my boss would continually come have these verbal discussions with me and would never put anything in writing I took to summarizing every discussion we had in email. Like “just to confirm that you asked me to do X by Y date and you understand that means I won’t be able to complete the previous task you gave me until Z date - 2 weeks later than originally scheduled - because you want me to prioritize this new project.
The woman would then storm back into my office screaming at me for putting the discussion in writing and arguing about pushing back the other project or whatever. At which point I would summarize that conversation in email as well. Which would bring her storming back in, rinse and repeat ad nauseum.
Anyway I cannot imagine how badly that job would have gone if I hadn’t put all her wildly unreasonable demands in writing. Bitch still hated me but she could never hang me for “missing deadlines” because I always had in writing that she’d pushed the project back because she wanted something else done first.
Paper your asses babes. Do not let them get away with shit. If they won’t put what they’re asking you to do in writing then write it up yourself and email it to them.
Just a reminder that it’s a perfectly valid option to send a nice message or give a nice phonecall for a business or person supporting the LGBTQIA+ community, in whatever fashion.
I was at a place and they had a sign basically inviting people to use the restroom that was most comfortable for their identity. I decided that they needed to hear about it, because the people who would be mad about it are usually VERY LOUD and VERY ANGRY about it. Especially because it was a place you usually take children to.
So I explained that while I am cis, I have dear friends who are not, and I care about their comfort. And more than that, I’m trying to teach my daughter to have respect and kindness for others and celebrate people’s differences, and that is a good example. I made SURE to mention that I was happy to spend my money there and would be proud to come back and spend more.
The message I got back was so nice – they explained that it’s not often visitors reach out to share positive feedback with them.
Allow me to highlight –
It’s not often visitors reach out to share positive feedback with them.
Like I said, the people who are against this stuff have no problems being very vocal with their hatred. Take the two minutes to share your positive feedback and give them something tangible they can take to their bosses or boards or whatever to prove that representation and inclusivity is important and valuable.
Plus, you can give that one person on the other end of your message something to smile about, knowing there’s someone who cared enough to reach out and show support.
[ID1: A screenshot of Tumblr’s support request page. The category for support is Feedback and the description reads:
“Hey, remember how you settled a discrimination bias lawsuit only last year due to the severely sloppy porn ban moderation predominately targeting the LGBT community?
Well, with that in mind, and the fact that you’re already struggling to turn a profit with this site, I highly recommend taking a look at whoever on the moderation team is actively going out of there way to falsely flag as many posts talking about trans people as "mature content” despite not having any mature content.
Do you really want to risk another lawsuit defending a staff member’s immature vendetta?“
ID2: A collection of screenshots.
The first is the Tumblr search results for ‘crossdressing’. There is a pop-up reading "Hold your horses! These search results are likely to contain content which does not comply with Tumblr’s Community Guidelines. To help keep everyone safe we’re not displaying any content here.” There’s a button reading “Learn more”.
The second is the Tumblr search results for 'tgirl’ which has the same “Hold your horses” pop-up.
The third is a screenshot of a Tumblr post.
@/foone posts “Me: I’m trans Tumblr:”
@/catgirl-kaiju reblogs with “We reviewed your post and determined it needed a Community Label.”
@/notaspy11 reblogs with a screenshot of the post, showing that it has a Mature Community Label, and stating “Literally beyond parody”.
The fourth is a screenshot of a Tumblr post.
@/transmortifried (deactivated) posts “ayyy guess who got her navel pierced today”, with two attached images of herself. The first is her showing a peace sign to the camera, and the second is a picture of her stomach, showing the navel piercing.
@/transmortifried reblogs with a screenshot of an email from Tumblr. It reads:
“Hello transmortifried,
We’ve reviewed your classification appeal and after careful review, we have determined that your post is considered adult under our Community Guidelines.
Don’t worry, this post hasn’t been deleted, it is just hidden from public view.
For more information about what is considered adult content, please see our FAQ support post or our Help Center.
Thank you, Tumblr Trust & Safety”
She states “yeah okay it’s a pattern”
@/zenonym (deactivated) reblogs with “and now they killed my blog! you fuckers!”
It is worth nothing that neither blogs have the typical “deactivated-date” appended to them, indicating they were most likely deleted by Tumblr rather than deactivated.
The fifth is a screenshot of a Tumblr post.
@/zenonym posts “staff fucking nuked me right when i complained about my selfie being flagged as mature content
too convenient for coincidence”
@/zenonym reblogs with “i had that fucking account for over ten years”.
The sixth is a screenshot of a Tumblr post.
@/predstrogen posts a screenshot of her Tumblr notifications for Thursday, July 20th and Friday, July 21st. They’re fully taken up by notifications that read “We reviewed your post and determined it needed a Community Label”, for 15 flags total.
The seventh is a screenshot of a Tumblr post.
@/demilypyro posts a screenshot of a comment by @/telltaletypist reading “if there’s one thing i know about being a trans woman it’s that absolutely nobody gets weird or judgy at us for expressing sexual desire”.
She comments “This is true I think, everyone just has very normal and even-minded thoughts and opinions about transfeminine sexuality”.
@/demilypyro reblogs with a screenshot of Tumblr’s 'Request community label review’ pop-up. It reads:
“We have determined that your post contains content that would be better suited with a Community Label. While it does not violate our Community Guidelines, a Community Label has been added to your post so that it is only presented to those who wish to view that material.
If you think this was done in error, you can Request Review. Please include a short explanation with your request:”
There is a text box below, with text simply reading “come on”.
@/zoethiahs-little-pillow-fort reblogs with “No honestly I think it’s REALLY important that people see this. Literally the exact same post, sans trans people, and it didn’t get flagged.”
They attach a screenshot of a post by @/sounddesignerjeans, which is identical to this post (containing a comment from telltaletypist about how 'nobody gets weird or judgy at a man for expressing sexual desire’ and a response from @/sounddesignerjeans identical to @/demilypyro’s comment.
@/sounddesignerjeans reblogs with “By the way, this post has been reported as missing a community label by several people and still isn’t marked mature. So it’s not even that the original post got reported and this one didn’t.
Tumblr’s official stance is that trans women are considered explicit content.”
@/gaycatastrophe reblogs with “@/staff @/support
hey remember how tumblr just had to settle with NYC’s human rights commission for discriminating against LGBTQ people in your implementation of the NSFW ban? We do.
They attach an article titled "Tumblr is setting with NYC’s human rights agency over alleged porn ban bias”.
Whilst the dates are not visible, demilypyro’s reblog containing the Request Review form was 19 minutes after the inital post about transfeminine sexuality was made, and sounddesignerjeans’ reblog commenting that their post about male sexuality was not flagged despite multiple reports was made 19 hours after the inital post.
The eighth is a screenshot of a Tumblr post by @/predstrogen.
She posts two pictures of herself; the first presumably pre-estrogen and possibly pre-transition, and the second presumably whilst on estrogen and transitioning. She is noticeably more feminine in the second picture.
She captions the pictures “not even a full year apart… we stay silly :3 [cat emoji]”.
@/predstrogen reblogs the post, with a screenshot of a notification reading “We reviewed your post and determined it needed a Community Label”, and another screenshot showing her flagged posts. It shows that this post is flagged as requiring a Community Label. She comments “literally fuck off lol”
@/predstrogen reblogs the post, with a screenshot of a notification reading “We re-reviewed your post and determined it needed a Community Label”, and another screenshot showing that this post still has a Community Label.
She comments “tumblr has doubled down and after almost a week re-reviewed MY FUCKING TRANSITION and decided it still needed a community label for sexual themes
fuck this website and fuck every person working there you pricks”.
The ninth is a screenshot of a post by @/predstrogen. She says “OH COME ON THEY FLAGGED MY FUCKING PINNED POST? IT’S JUST MY BIO”
@/predstrogen reblogs with a screenshot of her pinned post, which has a pop-up on it reading “We reviewed your post and determined it needed a Community Label”.
The pinned post reads: “Pinned: Hiya!!
It’s Avery, or Moira. 21 years old. Bigender Trans gal, and a Poly Bi Lesbian. I use She/Him, she is preferred. I’m from Ireland and Disabled” (the post is cut off).“
She comments "GET A FUCKING GRIP ALREADY”.
The tenth is a screenshot of @/i-aint-even-bovvered’s Tumblr account. Their account’s title is “Actually Jaskier”. Their account’s description is “Queer/Enby (they/them) Jew/ "Nearing 30” - my roommate".
A post is visible, reading “welp, my blog has been flagged as mature content for some reason”. /end ID]
“i have crossed the face of the universe; i poison it to match my grief” is one of the rawest lines in Nona the Ninth. there’s like a whole thesis in here but Varun just says it so plainly, and it’s so human. because that’s what Cytherea did! that’s what John is doing! that’s what Kiriona, in all her rage and grief and loss of everything she ever had, has fallen down the path of. that’s Alecto, the fury of unceasing anger. that’s the cycle of abuse!!!
the amount of people in the replies saying “what career” lmao
Gladly
Don’t forget this meme exist because everyone on the set was hating him and they get super happy when he died.
Okay so I reblogged this somewhat uncritically at first I’ll admit. I remembered that media is going to attempt to turn actors into people that we can turn against. Despite his… Previous behaviors I wanted to be 100% sure. So here is his comments from Instagram on what he said:
Also here’s a link to the previous behaviors in question
Now you can see here he is just saying striking is something he does not like and he expects to be present on the picket line.
HOWEVER
He has already crossed the picket line. As many are aware SAG-AFTRA has called for all union members to STOP promotion and events. This includes social media promotion. For his show, Heels, new season he did this:
So not only has he promoted the show on social media, and done so in a way that shows that he clearly knows what he is doing. BUT he also attended a convention which if you look it up was 100% AFTER the union call to cut event attendance. AKA something DIRECTLY in opposition to his union’s strike requirements. If you check their website you can see it is one of the immediate things that is seen as a call to arms for striking actors.
To attend this convention and sign autographs and do promotion for the show with his attendance is a CLEAR CUT violation of the union rules for the strike. Full-stop right there, he’s a Scab 100%. No “he maybe had to do it to survive!!” Nick Cage has a crippling dinosaur bone addiction and somehow managed to stay the picket line soooo. Fuck Amell right there. Not to mention the people losing their homes and what not. He had a choice and he made it, scab right there. But I’ll continue because it’s kind of fun to rip him to shreds.
To promote his show on social media was to cross the picket line, to do so in this little “haha I’m not promoting it, it just happened to be there!” Bullshit way was a spit in the face of his union leadership and his fellow union members. ESPECIALLY combined with the fact that he promoted it at a convention with his attendance, and clearly in the timeframe of the strike.
You may be saying, “Maybe he’s really dumb and thought this was okay!” In regards to his social media posts. Okay sure but at best he thought it was wrong because he purposefully went out of his way to misdirect what he was doing. But hey I’ll give you that, maybe he’s the most braindead guy ever.
Except for this:
He was fully aware. He was told. He was informed. He continued to make this decision. If he shows on a picket line I highly suspect he will not be welcomed as a studio exec would not be welcomed. I hope they fully rescind his union leadership. The replies to the tweet are him defending his actions, to which the other replies with the gif in which he becomes big cry baby Jane about.
This is also COMPLETELY ignoring the Jordan Peterson retweet where he is happily saying he must be offensive to “think” which is just…. Well a defense for the braindead thing I’ll give you that. But the main message here is this:
Stephen Amell is 100% unmistakably and unapologetically a scab, and this is not just BS propaganda. May his union membership be revoked with prejudice.
Between Ryan Gosling Ken and Benoit Blanc I’m starting to think that it’s some sort of animal abuse to keep casting big name actors in stoic macho manly man rolls instead of giving them goofy little guys to play. Like look at them their coats are shiny, they seem so much more lively and energetic. We need to make sure all actors have enough goofy little guys to play before peta gets involved.
Pasteups in NYC denouncing Facebook for collaboration with Nebraska police to sentence a teenage girl to 90 days in jail for using using the abortion pill to terminate her pregnancy.
Facebook gave the cops ALL THE DATA of the teen and her mother, based on a hunch by some random fucking cop. This included years worth of photos, videos, ‘private’ chats and THEIR FUCKING LOCATION DATA.
DON’T TRUST SOCIAL MEDIAS WITH ANYTHING
ID: Text pasted on a wall reading “Facebook gave Nebraska cops a teen’s DMs so they could prosecute her for having an abortion” /End ID
Ursula K. Le Guin’s 1969 novel The Left Hand of Darkness was a big deal in feminist science fiction for being one of the first widely popular and critically acclaimed works to do cool shit with sex and gender (which was certainly nothing new, but previous such works had rarely “taken off” the way LHoD did). It was criticized for referring to the genderfluid characters with the indefinite “he,” which was a la mode in style guides at the time, instead of using alternating or gender-neutral pronouns. In time Le Guin came to agree with this criticism; she considered her decision not to take things further one of her biggest literary regrets, stating that “I am haunted and bedeviled by the matter of the pronouns.”
I tell you this only because the phrase “I am haunted and bedeviled by the matter of the pronouns” is one I think about a lot.
yesterday I went to a little meeting at my local queer community center and I was admiring their bookshelves and mentioned that I work at the public library and someone said “well I bet they don’t have any [LGBTQ+ books] at our library” and I was like um. yes we do. we have tons of them. half of our employees are queer leftists so they said “oh well I bet they don’t in [nearby rural county]” and I was like uh once again yes they absolutely do. gay people live and work there as well
so here’s a quick reminder that if you don’t think your local library has enough queer centered materials you should actually check before assuming, and if you’re not satisfied with their collection you should submit a request for more such books. I don’t know what the political landscape of libraries looks like outside the us rn, but within the us no matter where you are, I promise you there are employees at your library fighting for inclusion and intellectual freedom and they can’t win without vocal public support
cute girl at the hardware store once complimented my work boots and being the dumbest butch in a 50mi radius i said thanks and started talking about steel toes vs composites and how most womens sizes only have compsite toes but usually you need to replace those after every incident so steel toes are superior however composites are lighter and more flexible but if youre welding you need met guards anyway and she politely fled. hazards of hardware store flirting: might hit the special interest button
this 50′s hungarian comic strip I’d never heard of until now is so damn cute for something that also gets so horny
It helps that the writer was trying to create something he hoped would appeal to women as much as men.
Yeah and I think where it really succeeds vs. modern anime wifey fantasy shit is that Jucika really is just a character super comfortable with being sexual, likes looking sexy and even has no shame in using it to get her way:
….But at the same time, she doesn’t tolerate being objectified against her wishes:
….And the comic takes her side in both cases, whereas I’ve seen countless modern narratives in which this same character would have only been framed as like a Slutty
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Bitch
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or full blown villain.
One of the things I also really like about this comic, besides what’s already been stated, is that the humor isn’t always about her being sexy. Sometimes it’s just about other goofy things in her life!
oh yes many of them are experienes just anybody can relate to
but then there’s also the time she just….built a functional AI?
she just didn’t predict how the robot rebellion would really manifest
I love how there isn’t a single dialogue bubble, yet you can fully understand what’s happening.
